So lately I have had a struggle with my son and unhealthy limits with devices. I realize this is quite common, my son lives in two homes and I have come to realize that I overcompensate for his Mother's under compensation. Classic mess, I have talked with my son about it, told him I will lighten up and the reasons why it is not healthy to always be on a device. He expressed he is lonely being an only kid in a pandemic i would imagine is tough. So I took this thought and came up with that Minecraft is everything to him in his life right now, so why not put effort in and make it about his interest but in a way that benefits my interests as well. So I came up with backwoods hiking to look for materials to make real life minecraft recipes, like a feathers, a stick, and a sharp rock to make an arrow. I told him my idea and he bought into it, he loved it and we went off our property into the woods for the first time. What I loved best was this morning the first thing out of his mouth was Dad I had so much fun with you yesterday.
Such a difference, last Monday when I picked him up from school he told me he liked being at mom's more than my place (it was an open chat, and that came out which I am thankful). That told me I was too strict, that kind of threw me off for most of last week, I realized I needed to change how I parent immediately or our relationship will soon change in a way I will not enjoy. He had a grudge attitude against me for the first time this week as well and also stopped listening to me. As I write this I keep pausing to realize how much a week can be for me emotionally. I am an all in Single Dad, I kind feel that's why in my off weeks without my Son I tend to keep to myself, maybe I have nothing left to give beyond being the type of Father I need to be. Pin that.
This hike was such a great moment, it felt tide turning for us, the I will not have an ego in this, I will take the data I currently possess and make the best choices for you buddy will always be paramount to me. I will invest more time playing the things you need, so I can help you properly develop and have a healthy and positive outlook on life. Because everything is choice and this is what I choose. I choose you, the one thing in this world where I felt love, true effortless love.
We did not find any really cool things on the hike, I got a good video of him playing in the water and seeing the childhood innocence, I will keep that video for myself and his mother, it was more about the hike and opps! we did find one feather. Today we plan to follow train tracks to a old cobblestone train bridge, we might find "flint" for the arrowheads for the spear. My heart is content.
Yesterday was an inservice day for my Son so he had no school, I booked a vacation day and this is what we did.
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Stopped here before going shopping with my Son and found a lot of garbage, will need to go back without my Son to clean with heavy duty gloves |
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Found a dead skunk among some garbage which lead to a good talk about death. |
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This canvas I printed some of last years photo's showed up |
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The west facing side of my property |
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My Son loved this in a rock pile |
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And Son when i told you i will give you the world, this is what i meant. |
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Love this |
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About as far as we went all downhill |
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Son was playing up stream and i was watching the clean water get dirty |
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The start of a long whine, lol |
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love the view, not the best photo |
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Path back to our house |
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