Where are the Men?

This is a call out to all the men of my generation, where are you? what have you been up to? why have you failed to show?

I was born on Nov 6th 1977 and I am 34 this year. I am only now beginning to see what being a man is all about. I have been in a relationship with my Wife for the past 5 years, 3 of them married. I am only now starting to be a man, we are all born male but only few become men.

34 turning 35 and only starting to understand what being a man is all about. the generation before me found out about being a man at 20-25. Generation before that was 15-20. If we as humans are as rapidly progressing as we claim why is it that we males are finding out later (not sooner) what it is to be a man. Shouldn't this be opposite?

You see I am stuck in a generation of males who have lost the blueprints of what a man is, or was supposed to be. I live in a generation where women raise males. I live in a generation where men are too busy hidden behind closed doors masturbating to horrific acts that you could not even call it intercourse to only then be the father of a son whose starving for attention. Crying for a father, lost in the chaos of this world. I am stuck in a generation where more people have been sexually molested then not, and I am stuck in a generation where far too many people don't give a shit about that,  they would rather think to themselves then to stand up and look someone in the face and tell them what they believe.

I live in a world where there's no more room for things to be swept under the rug, the rug is bursting full of dirt but we keep sweeping, hiding from the truths in our lives. We now live in a world where we best describe our emotions by not using emotions to describe them. "How are you today?" "Good!" "Great!" "Fine..." I live in a world where people write things down and post publically without every thinking there is a consequence.  Where there aren't many rules left, where if you don't have anything good to say is a thing of the past. I live in a world now where it is commonplace for people to commit suicide from written words. Do you still think there is no consequences? Do you still think there is no rules? The only difference between some sports is rules, basketball isn't a game without rules, so why shouldn't life have rules as well, if you wanted to live a life worth living. Now do you think we are progressing as Men? We can all procreate, that doesn't mean we should.

Do you still think everything is fine? Do you still feel we haven’t dropped the ball, as Men, as Male, as Parents, as Sons and Daughters? As people who have conscious thought? Do you feel embarrassed right now? and If not why not?  and if not, can you describe to me why in words and emotions? We have been taught our whole lives that we don't matter, that we are not unique. To think as one like the school boards teach us. To teach on creative thought but then only mark you on common ideals.  So once again, do you feel that we are fine?

Do you feel that this world is a better place because of you? Do you feel that the lines between male and a man are disappearing? or becoming more solid? Do you feel there is a difference in the first place. Do you understand that Men are natural leaders and that boys are failing to be led. They are now being taught that women are not beautiful. That women shouldn't have a right to stand up on their own. that Women are now viewed as being bought and sold into the sex slavery market, these boys do not see women being treated as a rose and don't understand where the thorns came from. Our boys are trying to have sex with women like they see on the internet and sadly think that that's the way it should be to please a Women. Our boys are failing to grow up and it's because of the fathers, or lack of fathers.

I live in a world where I am not proud. I am sad to think of all the negative energy becoming a driving force for our future. That happiness is harder to find then health, love is harder to find then lust. Smiles are harder to find then frowns. I am not happy for I am only now learning to be a Man. To use my emotions to understand the difference between love and lust, most men don't even learn that. Because we are taught our wholes lives to never be satisfied. To always want more, bigger is better. While the women are getting breast implants to only be loved, these same women cry so hard inside that the pain will not go away. The cuts are so deep that She only knows a fake smile to match her fake breasts. Her love for you is also fake for the pain is too deep for the love to be real. All because man thinks they deserve better than before them. Tell me one thing you've done to deserve better than before you?

Lock yourself in a room and think, think about one thing only, ask yourself this, "what am I thinking about right now and how does that make me feel?" Sounds simple? when was the last time you ever did that? but please be real with yourself and just listen. You will not be guided wrong. Listen to your voice not of the male inside you, but of the Man inside of you.  Then realize your errors and go about being a Man, the leaders of the lost.